One Word 2013 Followup: Live
Several years ago, a friend challenged to stop making resolutions and start focusing on one word that would change our lives during that year. Since I’m great at making the list of resolutions and equally great at putting it away and ignoring it, I thought this a wonderful idea. OneWord365 has become my new process.
In 2013, I shared that my OneWord was Live. In 2012, I shared that I felt that I had survived. Barely. I wanted to truly live, to do more than breathe in and breathe out, to be present in every moment.
Living requires a lot of faith.
Living required me to step back from some of my duties at my part-time job at our church. When I discussed it with our elders, they were very supportive and encouraging. Who knew that to live would include a cut in pay? Faith, I’m telllin’ ya!
In June, life changed a lot. I’ve been through cancer twice, several surgeries, and survived depression so deep I didn’t want to breathe. But becoming caregiver for my parents has been a whole new ballgame. I had to take on the task of talking to all the doctors, learning all the medicines and managing them. My father has fallen several times, broken this and that and has heart issues. My mother is quite healthy, but is showing significant signs of dementia.
September brought a new kind of living. My husband suffered a brain aneurysm. Faith. Walking boldly, not knowing the future, but believing in the best of outcomes, praying for God’s will then begging for my heart’s desire.
Living in the moment requires intention.
Christmas has just passed, along with the second birthday of our granddaughter and my mother. In times past, I would have scooted around each of the family events, preparing food, then shooting photos and walking away wondering where the time had gone.
This year, the Christmas meal was prepared by one of our daughters-in-love and when gift-opening time came, I sat on the floor and gave them out. I watched faces as each was opened. Laughter rang out and joy filled the room.
The granddaughter’s birthday party was filled with squeals and thumps as we partied at Burger King. My parents watched the children and I watched both the elders and the young. I saw the unity between parents as they worked together to make a precious girl’s birthday special. I laughed when she looked at one gift closely, then laid it down saying, “No.” to return to the previous one.
My mother now has some good days, lately those are fewer than the bad. Her birthday became a good day when we took her out to eat and I chose to record that with photos, because, you know, who knows how long 84 and 90 will make it?
Live. I’ve done a lot of that in 2013. It wasn’t like I thought it would be, but it was everything it was supposed to be.
About Faye Bryant
Having been compared to Erma Bombeck, Faye uses wit, humor and humility to share wisdom and truth with women of all ages using the style of open and honest discussion between close friends. Faye is unabashed with her presentation of her faith, yet connects with those who feel unaccepted by religion or church. As an author and a speaker, Faye takes audiences beyond the traditional answers to look deeper into scripture and find truth to apply to life here and now.